Online Dating

This is my first blog. I have wanted  to blog for a long time but was not sure if I care if anyone reads this or not. I saw the moving Social Network, it brought up some interesting things about what this might do for or against a person.  I am just stumbling around with this for now to see what I want to do.

It is my intention to relate my experiences with On line dating and the stories I hear or experience while going through this process.  I intend to relate my experiences, thoughts and feelings as I go. I am looking for comments from both men and women about my blog but also about your related experiences.

I have been on the online dating on and off for over 7 years now.  Sometimes I was in an unsatisfactory relationship but just could not give it up, but wanted to see what else was out there.  Other times I was serious about finding a nice woman to settle down with and other times just someone to date.  In those years I have met some wonderful women and some are still friends today.

The various sites I have visited range from the simple bullatine board type of thing, like Craigs List. To the expensive ones like Eharmony.  My favorite to date is plenty of fish.  It is free and it allows you to do searches in all kinds of criteria, plus it allows one to past many pictures.   Okcupid is another free one, that I like, but have had poor results in.

Plenty of Fish is the one I like the most and am using it now.
Recently I found this most wonderful woman whom has got me to thinking about making my profile invisible and eventually deleting it, if we work out as I hope.  This is very rare for me....as I said I had been on these sites for over 7 years.

In those years I have assisted men and women rewrite their profile with the result of better quality dates for them.   I thought my profile was just fine for the results I had recieved....until recently.

You see the one that I met recently offered to rewrite my profile.  It was perplexing that she offered.  She is a professional writer with a very interesting business.  She writes life stories for people.  People hire her to interview their loved one and document the interview in a well written format.  It is a very valuable piece for their families. I have actually flipped over this woman and I thought she has of me, until today when she offered to rewrite my profile.  We shall she what she does with it.

Up until just last week, I was corrosponding with several women.  I like them all but as I make arrangements to meet them, I find that there is no Chemistry.  If not I might still see them if there is good conversation and mutual interest.  If I kiss them, and the kiss is not enjoyable then it usually is that last I will see them.  I find that a poor kisser will not be a good lover.  I want a good lover too.

Since I am in my late 50's I find that my little guy...better known as Spike, does not jump to the occassion as he use to in earlier years.  I think he is getting smarter.   I thought that when he would sleep and I wanted him to participate that perhaps ED was an issue.   By going out with various women I discovered that he only worked when there was some Chemistry going on.  By knowing this, I have avoided the embarrassment of being with a woman and not being able to perform.  So embarrassing on the first attempt too.  

I put this out there to anyone who bothers to read this.  Have you ever been participant in a situation when an erection was wanted but did not happen?  This applies to both men and women.  As with women, if you are not aroused enough, who would know?   Sure if you are not wet then you just get some lubricant, but if the guy is not hard...your sunk!    So  what happened?  What to do about it?

Also I want comments on your online dating experiences.  What have you done, what are you looking for.  What do you expect on the first date?  How about some successful stories or some horror stories.  I will post most of them...heck if I even get a one I will probably post it.

I do not know how anomalous this blog will remain.  I will not tell anyone I know about it, nor will I reveal your identity, so lets talk openly about this.  If you think you know me, please ask, for it could be real embarrassing and unfair.  Unfair in that I do not like someone knowing something of me but I do not know that same info about them.  Makes for unfair playing field.